Olya was an athlete. Very strong and smart, she often won various competitions.
Our school was proud of her. In addition, she managed to be an excellent student in other subjects.
It so happens that success from an early age turns a person into a lazy blockhead. Only Olga was not touched. The girl organized her own business.
Then she fell in love, got married, gave birth. From the outside, everything looked fabulous. Olya bought an apartment, and eventually a dacha. But only after 27 years, she literally became a different person.
I heard a lot of things about how a person cannot suddenly become different. I communicated with Olga regularly until that birthday. There was no reason that could have provoked what happened to her. Olya abruptly lost interest in life.
At first, everyone thought that everything would pass. After all, it is impossible to be an excellent student all your life and in everything. However, for more than ten years, Olga has not been able to return to her former life. Business no longer generates income, savings run out. Olya moved to the capital, rented a bed for herself and got a job as an ordinary manager.
After the divorce from her husband, the son stayed with his father. Surprisingly, the man behaves very decently and does not set the child against his own mother, he does not even demand child support from her. The boy loves his mother. From time to time they talk on the phone. Olya also loves her son. However, she does not want her son to remember her the way she is now.
Recently, Olga began to drink. Moves from one job to another. Periodically declares that this regular work is the extreme frontier for her.
Mom does not want to communicate with her so that Olya does not come home. After all, here she is successful, beautiful, happy and wealthy for everyone. Of course, the mother loves her daughter and tries to help her son-in-law in raising her grandson. She and Olya do not mind helping. Only now with endless moralizing and lectures. I don’t know what caused the divorce, but now she categorically does not want to communicate with her ex-husband.
A couple of years ago, Olya said that she wanted to gather her strength and buy herself a luxurious apartment in the capital, so that everyone would be envious. Only the words remained words. Now she doesn’t even talk about it. He admits that he feels empty and tired inside.
I think that each of us at least once in our lives envied someone else’s success. How was this man able to succeed so quickly? This is a real winner!
In all normal people, someone else’s success causes envy. From the side we see only the front part of what is happening. But there is also a downside. For a successful person, parental, teacher and other messages about the need to be better in everything and always the first become the dark side. Yes, hard work has nothing to do with it. It can only serve as a foundation.
Unfortunately, this message does not bring anything good. It is broadcast by people who themselves could not realize themselves and strive to do this with the help of their children. It happens that this message can lead to the desired victory. However, most often it leads to problems and troubles. If a person does not have the opportunity to at least sometimes relax and not be the most successful, then he will hide from others, refuse help and lose the level that he has been striving for so long. That’s just the usual average life does not suit him.
You can fix this. The first step is to find the problem. Look at yourself through the eyes of a stranger. This person should not be so striving for superiority.